“ The husband who has strength to confide in his wife that he loves another – he is saved, and so too the wife. But when he does not have it, he loses confidence in himself, and so what he looks for is forgetfulness in the love of another. Undoubtedly, it is as much the pain of not having resisted in time, as true love for the other, that brings a man to yield. ”
 Søren Kierkegaard, Either/Or (1843). copy citation