“ Only when the individual’s heart is truly opened by love, when love has made him eloquent far more profoundly than the usual sense in which love is said to make one that (for even a seducer can have eloquence of that kind) , only when the individual has thus deposited everything in the shared consciousness, only then does secretiveness acquire strength, life and meaning. ”
 Søren Kierkegaard, Either/Or (1843). copy citation