Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions.
The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others.
 Epictetus, Enchiridion (125). copy citation

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Author Epictetus
Source Enchiridion
Topic action reputation
Date 125
Language English
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Note Translated by Elizabeth Carter
Weblink http://classics.mit.edu/Epictetus/epicench.html

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“A few comments have been posted about The Enchiridion. Download: A 40k text-only version is available for download. The Enchiridion By Epictetus Written 135 A.C.E. Translated by Elizabeth Carter 1. Some things are in our control and others not. Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever are our own actions. Things not in our control are body, property, reputation, command, and, in one word, whatever are not our own actions. The things in our control are by nature free, unrestrained, unhindered; but those not in our control are weak, slavish, restrained, belonging to others. Remember, then, that if you suppose that things which are slavish by nature are also free, and that what belongs to others is your own, then you will be hindered. You will lament, you will be disturbed, and you will find fault both with gods and men.” source