my self-love makes me think myself nice, but thinking myself nice is not why I love myself.
 C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity (1952). copy citation

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Author C. S. Lewis
Source Mere Christianity
Topic love self-knowledge
Date 1952
Language English
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Note Adapted from a series of BBC radio talks made between 1942 and 1944
Weblink https://www.dacc.edu/assets/pdfs/PCM/merechristianitylewis.pdf

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“Do I think well of myself, think myself a nice chap? Well, I am afraid I sometimes do (and those are, no doubt, my worst moments) but that is not why I love myself. In fact it is the other way round: my self-love makes me think myself nice, but thinking myself nice is not why I love myself. So loving my enemies does not apparently mean thinking them nice either. That is an enormous relief. For a good many people imagine that forgiving your enemies means making out that they are really not such bad fellows after all, when it is quite plain that they are.” source