we must live with people as we find them; those who are said to be well-bred are often only those who are exquisite in their vices
 Montesquieu, Persian Letters (1721). copy citation

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Author Montesquieu
Source Persian Letters
Topic vice living
Date 1721
Language English
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Note Translated by John Davidson
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Context

“only one thing is amiss: in their good-nature they receive all kinds of people, which makes the company at their house sometimes not altogether unexceptionable. I, of course, have nothing to say against it; we must live with people as we find them; those who are said to be well-bred are often only those who are exquisite in their vices; and perhaps it is with them as with poisons, the more subtle, the more dangerous.” “And that old man,” I whispered, “who looks so morose? I took him at first for a foreigner; because, in addition to being dressed differently from the rest, he condemns everything that is done in France, and disapproves of your government.”” source