We prefer ourselves always to those with whom we intend to live, and they almost always perceive the preference.
 François de La Rochefoucauld, Reflections; or Sentences and Moral Maxims (1665). copy citation

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Author François de La Rochefoucauld
Source Reflections; or Sentences and Moral Maxims
Topic living
Date 1665
Language English
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Note Translated by J. W. Willis Bund
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“It would be idle to show how far society is essential to men: all seek for it, and all find it, but few adopt the method of making it pleasant and lasting. Everyone seeks to find his pleasure and his advantage at the expense of others. We prefer ourselves always to those with whom we intend to live, and they almost always perceive the preference. It is this which disturbs and destroys society. We should discover a means to hide this love of selection since it is too ingrained in us to be in our power to destroy. We should make our pleasure that of other persons, to humour, never to wound their self-love.” source