The test of a man or woman's breeding is how they behave in a quarrel. Anybody can behave well when things are going smoothly.
 George Bernard Shaw, The Philanderer (1893). copy citation

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Author George Bernard Shaw
Source The Philanderer
Topic women quarrel
Date 1893
Language English
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“Go it, Julia!
CRAVEN. Hold your tongue, Sylvia. (He turns commandingly to Julia.) Now look here, Julia.
CHARTERIS. Hallo! A revolt of the fathers!
CRAVEN. Silence, Charteris. (To Julia, unanswerably.) The test of a man or woman's breeding is how they behave in a quarrel. Anybody can behave well when things are going smoothly. Now you said to-day, at that iniquitous club, that you were not a womanly woman. Very well: I don't mind. But if you are not going to behave like a lady when Mrs. Tranfield comes into this room, you've got to behave like a gentleman; or fond as I am of you, I'll cut you dead exactly as I would if you were my son.
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