“ we do not see people as they are, but as they are obliged to be ”
 Montesquieu, Persian Letters (1721). copy citation

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Author Montesquieu
Source Persian Letters
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Date 1721
Language English
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Note Translated by John Davidson
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“I knew nothing of women until I came here; I have learnt more about them in one month of Paris, than I could have done in thirty years of a seraglio. With us, character is uniform, because it is constrained; we do not see people as they are, but as they are obliged to be; in that slavery of heart and mind, it is only fear that utters a dull routine of words, very different from the language of nature which expresses itself so variously. Dissimulation, that art so practised and so necessary with us, is here unknown:” source