You ought to be a man, at your age you ought to be able to understand those who love. And you ought to be in love yourself, you must fall in love!
 Anton Chekhov, The Cherry Orchard (1904). copy citation

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Author Anton Chekhov
Source The Cherry Orchard
Topic age understanding
Date 1904
Language English
Reference The Cherry Orchard, Act III
Note Translated by Julius West
Weblink https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/The_Cherry_Orchard/Act_III

Context

“But he's a wretch, you alone don't know it! He's a petty thief, a nobody...
LUBOV. [Angry, but restrained] You're twenty-six or twenty-seven, and still a schoolboy of the second class!
TROFIMOV. Why not!
LUBOV. You ought to be a man, at your age you ought to be able to understand those who love. And you ought to be in love yourself, you must fall in love! [Angry] Yes, yes! You aren't pure, you're just a freak, a queer fellow, a funny growth....
TROFIMOV. [In horror] What is she saying!
LUBOV. "I'm above love!" You're not above love, you're just what our Fiers calls a bungler.” source