Man is the one who desires, woman the one who is desired.
 Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, Venus in Furs (1870). copy citation

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Author Leopold von Sacher-Masoch
Source Venus in Furs
Topic desire women
Date 1870
Language English
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Note Translated by Fernanada Savage
Weblink https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Venus_in_Furs

Context

“"You mean you are now my slave without illusions, and for that reason you shall feel the weight of my foot without mercy." "Madame!" "Don't you know me yet? Yes, I am cruel --since you take so much delight in that word-and am I not entitled to be so? Man is the one who desires, woman the one who is desired. This is woman's entire but decisive advantage. Through his passion nature has given man into woman's hands, and the woman who does not know how to make him her subject, her slave, her toy, and how to betray him with a smile in the end is not wise."” source