Henry James, The Ambassadors (London: Methuen & Co…
“ After which Chad observed: "But she doesn't like me. In fact she hates me." Strether's interest grew. "Then why does she want you at home?" "Because when you hate, you want to triumph; and if she should get me neatly stuck there she would triumph." Strether followed afresh, but looking as he went. "Certainly—in a manner. But it would scarce be a triumph worth having if, once entangled, feeling her dislike, and possibly conscious in time of a certain quantity of your own, you should, on the spot, make yourself unpleasant to her." ”
