Thomas Hardy,
Far from the Madding Crowd — Chapter XX
(1874)
“ A woman may be treated with a bitterness which is sweet to her, and with a rudeness which is not offensive. Bathsheba would have submitted to an indignant chastisement for her levity had Gabriel protested that he was loving her at the same time; the impetuosity of passion unrequited is bearable, even if it stings and anathematizes -- there is a triumph in the humiliation, and a tenderness in the strife. ”
