Yosef Karo, Translation:Shulchan Aruch — Orach Chaim 560…
“ And when a woman makes a piece of jewelery of silver and gold, she should leave behind a charm from the charms that are normal for them, in order that the piece not be complete. And when a groom marries a woman, he takes burned up ash, and places it on his head in the place of laying "Te-fi-lin". ”
Yosef Karo, Translation:Shulchan Aruch — Orach Chaim 560…
“ Rema Note:There are those who say, [the prohibition is] specifically for those whom they regularly play them, like for kings who stand and rest to instruments or in the house of a feast. (Tur) It is forbidden to make them heard because of the destruction, and even song by mouth over wine is forbidden, as it says: "In song one may not drink wine" (Isiah 24:9) . ”
