“ Better be a nettle in the side of your friend than his echo. The condition which high friendship demands is ability to do without it. ”
Ralph Waldo Emerson, Friendship (1841). copy citation
| Author | Ralph Waldo Emerson |
|---|---|
| Source | Friendship |
| Topic | friendship honesty |
| Date | 1841 |
| Language | English |
| Reference | in "Essays: First Series" |
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| Weblink | https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Essays:_First_Series/Friendship |
Context
“Let him not cease an instant to be himself. The only joy I have in his being mine, is that the not mine is mine. I hate, where I looked for a manly furtherance, or at least a manly resistance, to find a mush of concession. Better be a nettle in the side of your friend than his echo. The condition which high friendship demands is ability to do without it. That high office requires great and sublime parts. There must be very two, before there can be very one. Let it be an alliance of two large, formidable natures, mutually beheld, mutually feared, before yet they recognize the deep identity which beneath these disparities unites them.”
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