Yosef Karo

“ We collect etrog money according to wealth, because beautification of the mitzvah applies more to the rich than to the poor. A woman is exempt from giving etrog money because she is not obligation in it (responsa of Mahari"l 114) . Every man should take efforts and be hasty to perform the mitzvah of buying an etrog and lulav so as to fulfill the mitzvah fittingly (Hagahot Maimoni end of Laws of Lulav) . ”

“ If they would be angry, he does not fulfill his obligation until they give their portions as a gift. If one bought an etrog and another bought a quince, or if they together bought an etrog, a pomegranate, and a quince from their inheritance, he cannot fulfill his obligation with the etrog until they give up their portions as a gift. ”

“ Even were he to eat it, they would not be angry; because there is no other fruit of the same species, their presumed permittance is not sufficient. However, if there is something else of the same species, even if one is better than the others, their presumed permittance is sufficient because they will not be angry. ”