Son-in-law

“ Do thou foregather with thy son-in-law and make a show of affect to him and talk with him and say:—O my son-in-law, I have a mind to go, I and thou and the Wazir but no more, to a flower-garden that we may take our pleasure there. When we come to the garden, we will set on the table wine, and I will ply him therewith and compel him to drink; for, when he shall have drunken, he will lose his reason and his judgment will forsake him. ”

“ She has to obey her father-in-law, and during the first days of her married life is not allowed to speak to her husband’s parents or any of the family who are older than herself until her father-in-law gives her permission. ”

“ He is the mother’s brother, and he is also the prospective or actual father-in-law, and we have no means of telling in which of these two rôles he performs his duties. If the duties of a man towards his sister’s son among the Todas be a relic of mother-right, there can be little doubt that this condition must have been very remote. ”

“ I have none. My son need never become your son-in-law; but unhappily he will always be my son.
“Your last question is, however, a fair one, and I will answer it frankly on condition it is the last. So far as I am aware, then, my son has not already, nor (to my knowledge) has he ever had, a wife. I should say he is quite capable of having half-a-dozen. However, this is not ‘it’ at all. And I must beg you as a gentleman not to question me any further upon what is in fact a family matter, and one only named to you in confidence for your own guidance. ”

“ Sons-in-law and daughters-in-law love their fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law well enough and viceversa, and they all respect each other and can live peaceably together, but no one can impose his own will without determining a strike. ”

“ A woman may not even approach her son-in-law’s house, and she is never allowed to speak to him. Should they meet accidentally on a path, the son-in-law gives way and makes a circuit to avoid encountering his mother-in-law face to face.79.5 Here then we {80} see that a man avoids his son-in-law as well as his mother-in-law, though not so strictly. ”

“ If a man has brought in a present to the house of his father-in-law, has given a dowry, and a comrade of his has slandered him, his father-in-law has said to the claimant of the wife, ‘My daughter thou shalt not espouse,’ he shall make up and return all that he brought him, and his comrade shall not marry his wife. ”

“ If, however, through any accident their hands or backs should come into contact, the father-in-law is extremely horrified, and a dog must be at once killed, which he gives to his son-in-law for the purpose of wiping out the stain on his honour. If the two should ever fall out about anything, the son-in-law will leave the village and his wife, and will stay away in some other place till his father-in-law, for his daughter’s sake, calls him back. ”

“ The relationship of son-in-law and mother-in-law is always a strained one. The wife's mother may live with her under very decided limitations. It is not permitted to her to eat in the presence of her son-in-law, or to enter a room where he happens to be! ”

“ Monsieur le comte is without relations; it will be many years before your heirs attain their majority; no conflict of interests is, therefore, to be feared. A mother-in-law and a son-in-law placed in such relations will form a household of united interests. ”

“ There is hardly any doubt that there is something in the psychological situation of mother-in-law and son-in-law which furthers hostilities between them and renders living together difficult. The fact that the witticisms of civilized races show such a preference for this very mother-in-law theme seems to me to point to the fact that the emotional relations between mother-in-law and son-in-law are controlled by components which stand in sharp contrast to each other. ”

“ If the court appoints a guardian, the law (1894) requires that it "shall choose the father, or his testamentary appointee; then the mother if [still] unmarried, then next of kin, giving preference to the males." ”

“ A series of questions which a group of Chinese students in an American university has drawn up include such as the following: "Where a young girl is brought into the home to be reared as the future bride of the boy in the family, is there any limit to the authority of the mother-in-law?" The mother-in-law in such cases being usually the older or chief-mother, she is really the grandmother-in-law. ”

“ He has a mother-in-law' (Why always a mother-in-law?) 'He has a mother-in-law, who sends him all day long to look for wood; when he does not bring any home, he is beaten; when he has got any, the Swiss who stands at the entrance of the park takes it all away from him, and keeps it for himself. ”

“ Resolved, That, whereas, under the common law, the father is regarded as the guardian, by nature, of his children, having the entire control of their persons and education, while only upon the death of the father, does the mother become the guardian by nature; and, whereas, by the revised statutes of New York, it is provided, that where an estate in lands shall become vested in an infant, the guardianship of such infant, with the rights, powers, and duties of a guardian in soccage, shall belong to the father, and only in case of the father's death, to the mother ”

“ Cousins were allowed to marry but not nearer relatives. As a rule a widow was not permitted to remarry except a brother of her deceased husband and in case she had children by the first marriage, then it was the duty of the brother-in-law to marry her that the children might not be without the care and protection of a father. ”

“ And by the statute 4 & 5 Ph. & M. c. 8. whosoever marries any woman child under the age of sixteen years, without consent of parents or guardians, shall be subject to fine, or five years imprisonment: and her estate during the husband's life shall go to and be enjoyed by the next heir. The civil law indeed required the consent of the parent or tutor at all ages; unless the children were emancipated, or out of the parents power [o] : and, if such consent from the father was wanting, the marriage was null, and the children illegitimate [p] ”

“ A father's right to the custody of his own children being founded in law on the right of guardianship, this being taken away, they may of course be severed from him, and put by the authority of the court, into more orthodox hands. ”

“ Between cousins of whom the father of the one is brother of the mother of the other and at the same time the mother of the one is sister of the father of the other by birth legitimate or illegitimate. Sec. 2. No marriage shall be deemed unlawful by reason only that the persons contracting such marriage are related to one another in any B. Consent of parents.
B. Consent of parents. In the oldest Germanic law the consent not alone of parents but also of other near relatives, was a necessary, or at all events usual, preliminary of marriage. ”

“ Where the right of succession to family headship has been violated by an unauthorized head of a family, the successor or his or her agent by law may file an action in the court for the recovery of a succession to family headship. ”

“ The father is the legal guardian of the minor children and by will may appoint a guardian of their property, but he can not deprive the mother of the custody of their persons.
The husband is required by law to support and maintain his family out of his estate and by his services unless the wife sees fit to allow him to use her property for this purpose. ”

“ Frequently, however, a man is denied the privilege of taking his step-mother or his mother-in-law to wife, [1460] and in every state of the group, expressly or by implication, [1461] marriage between aunts and nephews, or uncles and nieces, is forbidden. ”

“ A father may represent his son in Court [31] and sue and defend in his name, but if he does so without leave from the Court he will be personally answerable for costs, if the suit proves unsuccessful. [32]
3. Consent to marriage of minor children; 3. Consent to marriage of minor children. The consent of parents is necessary to the marriage of minor children, [33] and without it the marriage is null and void. [34] Consent may be either express or implied. It is implied if the father knows that the marriage of the minor is about to take place and does not forbid it. ”

“ The suggestion rather than contention that if the state law be held applicable to determine next of kin, the right should have been recognized to seek to trace the paternity of the illegitimate child, so as to make the asserted father the parent under the statute, might well be disposed of by saying that no such contention seems to have been urged in either of the courts below. ”

“ On the dissolution of their marriage by divorce the parents shall determine by mutual agreement their respective responsibility for and the amount each of them shall contribute towards the maintenance and upbringing of their children. The court shall make the decision in this matter a part of the decree of divorce. In case such agreement between the parents is not to the benefit of the children, the children shall have the right to claim from either of the parents the maintenance they are entitled to by law. ”

“ And the legitimation of a child by the subsequent marriage of its parents will be held to depend on the law of its father’s domicile or nationality. But the reference to the place of contract, carried to North America with the rest of the English jurisprudence of that date, still maintains in the courts of the United States a struggle with the doctrine of personal law as governing capacity and status. ”

“ Johns, Mich., a father becomes the brother-in-law of his daughter; a sister becomes the mother-in-law of her brother; one man's father-in-law becomes his brother-in-law, and a woman's sister-in-law becomes her stepmother. ”

“ The same thing, always the same: the stepmother is ‘wicked and greedy’; the father-in-law, ‘harsh and quarrelsome,’ sits on the sleeping-shelf above the stove, ‘just like a dog [73] on a rope’; the mother-in-law, equally wicked, sits on the stove ‘just like a bitch on a chain’; the sisters-in-law are invariably ‘young dogs and tricksters’; the brothers-in-law are ‘malicious scoffers’; the husband is ‘either a fool or a drunkard’; the ‘old father-in-law bids him beat his wife soundly, until her hide drops off to her heels’ ”

“ The only natural relations to which it will be necessary to pay any particular attention, are those which, when sanctioned by law, give birth to the conditions of husband and wife, the two relations comprised under the head of parentality, and the corresponding relations comprised under the head of filiality or filiation. ”

“ The Guardianship Act 192 of 1993 repealed the common law rule that a father is the natural guardian of his legitimate children and replaced it by the rule that parents share guardianship in respect of their legitimate children. ”

“ With regard to the ascending and descending lines of affinity no such doubt arose, a man being by universal consent prohibited from marrying his stepmother or mother-in-law, step-daughter or daughter-in-law ”

“ Your brother Phill, d'ye see, says he's heir at law, and so there's a Chancery law-suit about it – But we knows that a will's a will, and the longest purse will carry the day. – Well! the upshot of all is, that, heir at law, or not heir at law, your brother, if he can carry on the suit, which folks be pretty dubous about, will never get no part of it' – 'And, therefore,' said Orlando sharply, 'you will not lend me what I asked? ”

“ The third and last of our three factors which complicate Corresponding displacement on the part of the parents-in-law themselves the relations of children-in-law and parents-in-law consists in a similar displacement of affect on the part of the parents-in-law, in virtue of which they may direct towards their children by marriage the affection or hostility which they originally experienced in relation to their own children ”

“ The mother likewise is liable, together with the father during his lifetime, and solely after his death. The mother of illegitimate children is liable for their support. [9] In case of divorce, both parents may be required to maintain the children according to their means. [10] The obligation of support ceases if the children are able by their industry or from their own means to support themselves. [11] The duty is reciprocal. Children must maintain their parents, [12] and if they are minors or lunatic the Court may charge the cost of maintenance upon their estate. ”

“ One effect of this is that the major spouse takes no advantage from the mar- riage by way of community of property, nor, where this exists, by ante-nuptial contract. [13] But the minor spouse is not penalized, [14] so that where both spouses are minors the penalty is not incurred.
Consent of parents when the spouses are of full age, It remains to speak of the requirement of consent of parents when the parties to the marriage are of full age. ”

“ When the question relates to property brought into the marriage by the spouses, and the ante-nuptial contract has provided for mutual succession, or at all events for the succession of one to the other, alteration or revocation by will is permitted, but it must be Only by mutual will. ”

“ According to Van Leeuwen (ubi sup.) , a man is obliged to support and educate his brother, sister, or brother-in-law, whether of the whole or of the half blood, in case they have become reduced to poverty, and also his natural brother. ”

“ Live no longer to the expectation of these deceived and deceiving people with whom we converse. Say to them, O father, O mother, O wife, O brother, O friend, I have lived with you after appearances hitherto. Henceforward I am the truth's. Be it known unto you that henceforward I obey no law less than the eternal law. I will have no covenants but proximities. I shall endeavour to nourish my parents, to support my family, to be the chaste husband of one wife, —but these relations I must fill after a new and unprecedented way. I appeal from your customs. I must be myself. ”

“ By the Married Persons Property Ordinance (No. 12 of 1904) , sec. 26, no Act of Verweezing shall be necessary before or upon the marriage of any widower or widow. ↑ Gr. 1. 9. 9; Voet, 26. 7. 1 and 6. Generally speaking a surviving mother is entitled to the custody (V. d. K. Th. 141) , notwithstanding a remarriage (Voet, 27. 2. 1) . A surviving parent must provide for the children, males until their eighteenth, females until their fifteenth year, out of the proceeds of the minor's estate. Gr. ubi sup. Van der Keessel, however (Th. 152) , says until full age. ↑ Gr. ubi sup.; Voet, 27. ”